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| While I have never been the regular night sleeper and usually couched no earlier than 3 or 4 AM, it seems that lately something has gone quite wrong me concerning both sleeping time and sleeping hours, since it has been difficult to sleep before 8 or 9 AM, thus waking up sometimes as late as 4 PM.
Before that, my sleeping time has been adjusted over the years so that I would sleep progressively later from Thursday on, as a way to keep up with working night shifts that would stretch over the week end and I've always been quite right with that.
But now... I don't know if it's due to the wear and tear of doing two shows each day on Thursday and Friday combined with my 46 years of age, so that I'd be more tired and need more rest to recover, but the fact is that the no-sleep thing has stretched over and reached days when I have no shows at all (and nothing else to do, I might add), like today, for instance, when I have slept for most of the day.
It sucks, for I don't get to play at all when it happens this way.
I am kind of concerned about it, maybe it has something to do with my unhappy marriage and the fact that we are still living together (I would not meet her as much that way, as I don't) or whatever, but it has reached the point where I long to be with my daughter for more time but simply cannot bring myself to be there, awaken, when she's there too with her mom.
Of course this also keeps me in the best possible shape for gigs, being able to stay alert all night without a single sign of fatigue, always driving the band as if there is no tomorrow... but the fact is that there IS a day ahead when I am supposed to do something else with my life and not being able to cope with it is starting to make me feel like a robot who only functions properly under certain specific working conditions, which would be playing drums, as it is, but as much as I like to do it - and I do love to -, I am starting to feel like my life is becoming a bit too one-dimensional.
Sorry for the rant.
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| | Mario, that sucks. I am kind of an insomniac myself, so I have some good prescription sleeping pills... nite nite!..zzzzzz |
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| | May I suggest family counseling? |
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| Well, that could certainly be the answer if I was any comfortable with psychotropics, which is not the case, you see, those simply kill me. Thanks for the input!
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| Thanks, Poopy, for the suggestion, but I guess that would be some useless expense, after all we're not together ever since before our daughter has been born, more than six years ago (almost seven), and neither of us want to try and pretend we could work again as a proper couple, I guess one of us will just have to leave in the end, which of course has been the reason we're still living together, since separation would be hard on our daughter and on each of us (for her sake, of course). It's a dead end situation if I've ever seen one, and I feel trapped like a mouse in a tight corner.
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| Mario, It's the stress that's effing up your sleep. The whole, and I quote, "I feel trapped like a mouse in a tight corner," is not good for you. Your body rebels against you. You need to look at the causes that are the root of your stress. Good luck. I hope that all works out well for you. And I hope that you once again find sleep when you need it. |
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| | Actually, Mario, living together is an option. Living apart is also an option. Either way, you and this woman are linked together for the rest your lives and you have to learn to deal with each other and maintain a healthy environment for your daughter. No matter how you work out your living arrangements, you will still have a relationship with this woman, and it needs to be healthy for your daughter's sake and for the sake of both you and mom. Family counseling deals with these issues. It is not just for people who are trying to save their marriage. It's also for people in your situation. While you're at it, get some individual counseling to help deal with your stress. |
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| Thanks, Poopy, I now see your point quite clearly, so I guess it's up to me to perform the next step.
The only thing that troubles me about it is that mom seems quite unpenetrable to learning experiences, so I do fear that such an effort, once taken, might be wholly innefective, but then that might be the way I see it (I doubt it, though, for I know how she may ignore even the most obvious of life's warnings).
You're a good man, Poopy, and I thank you again for caring enough to give me such an eye-opener.
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